Monkey wisdom

Do you love change…?

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I am going all retro this month. Thinking of Monkey Magic and singing David Bowie songs. I loved Monkey when I was growing up. What a cheeky fellow he was and that Pigsy, what a greedy guts. As I’ve grown older (and hopefully wiser…) I can more appreciate the beautiful parables this show taught.

To quote: “A good man may suffer until his goodness flows. The cause of all suffering is desire, and even to desire not to desire is still to be caught on the wheel.” Oooh that’s good!

Have you ever decided that you want to change? You tell yourself that on Monday (after another big weekend) you are really going to make an effort. Have a great diet, get to bed earlier, not be a road-rager, drink less, treat your body like a temple (instead of a half-way house)….the list goes on. For a day or two, or three, hells, maybe even a week. You do well – you do really well – and then there’s that voice, “it’s been a tough day, week, month, year, give yourself a break, start again next Monday.” The dialogue may vary, but the outcome is invariably the same; resolve is rooted.

There’s a reason for that – and I hate to depress you, but by the age of 35, 95% of our actions are habitualised. That’s why it’s hard to break the habit of being you. You see, you’ve being doing it for so long, that all of the cells in your body know this as normal. So when you say to yourself consciously, “I’m a gonna change”, your subconscious will do what it can to tell your body that this ‘isn’t a great idea, I’ve got this sorted baby, leave it with me’.

If you want to read an excellent book about this very topic, I highly recommend, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, – How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One by Dr Joe Dispenza. (It also comes with a meditation, which I don’t recommend, his voice was so far from relaxing that the whole purpose was defeated…I almost lost my mind listening!!!)

Now, I don’t know if you are like me, but I often think there is a bit of a disconnect with the person I am and the person I’d like very much to be. Help may just be at hand (and has been for a reeeeaallly long time). Check out the next blog post to find out more.